you need to read Michael Z. Williamson's post at Sacred Cow Slaughterhouse.
"I used to believe gays were entitled to relate as they wished,
including marriage. What two people do together doesn't affect me
unless I'm one of them.
I used to believe it was wrong to treat people differently based on
their skin color. Even if a few people fit a stereotype, millions of
others do not.
I used to believe there should be a strong division between church
and state, that any support of a religious entity using property of the
state constituted endorsement and was wrong.
I used to believe people had a right to protest, campaign, rant and create non-violent incidents to express themselves and their positions. I also believed they had a right to publish as they chose. I believed they were entitled to burn the Flag in protest, to make a statement."